The Difference Between Soulmates and Life Partners

soulmates vs life partners

Soul Mate: Someone who is aligned with your soul and is sent to challenge, awaken and stir different parts of you in order for your soul to transcend to a higher level of consciousness and awareness. Once the lesson has been learnt, physical separation usually occurs.

Life Partner: A companion, a friend, a stable and secure individual who you can lean on, trust and depend on to help you through life. There is a mutual feeling of love and respect and you are both in sync with each others needs and wants. 

Everyone wants to meet their Soulmate. In fact, one of the most common questions I receive in my readings and coaching sessions is- “When am I going to meet my Soulmate?”

We have many Soulmates in this life but their purpose is all the same- they are here to challenge and awaken us so our soul can evolve into a higher state of consciousness.

Our Soulmates always arrive when we are ready for them and not a moment sooner. They arrive when we are ready to learn the lessons that we were destined to fulfill.

Soulmate relationships are often not forever, this is because sometimes the relationship can be too intense or there is a certain karmic energy to the relationship that sees it come to a close once the necessary lessons have been learnt.

Soulmates can also be friends and relatives; they don’t always have to be romantic partners. Regardless of this, you will always feel a strong, energetic connection or a past life history together.

Many of us spend years obsessing about meeting a Soulmate, but fail to notice what we are really asking for. When we ask for a Soulmate we are really asking to grow and develop in consciousness, and not understanding this can sometimes block the energy from coming to us.

If you really want to connect with a Soulmate, you need to align with your own soul. You need to discover who you are, honor yourself and begin following your heart. When you align with your true self, you are then instantly in the vibration of meeting your soul-mate.

Alternatively, if you are done with the soul lessons for now and are just looking for a companion to share the rest of your life with, what you want to be asking for, or manifesting is your Life Partner.


A Life Partner is more like a companion or friend that you feel a strong connection to. It may not be a deep, soul connection like a soul mate, but there would be a mutual feeling of trust, understanding and respect. A life partner is someone who is dependable and considerate of your needs and wants. Of course, a life partner is also someone that you are attracted to and that you love and care for.

While you will still be learning lessons from a life partner, they are more about lending support and giving you a guiding hand as you navigate through your own soul journey.

Meeting your Life Partner is usually not something you spiritually or energetically prepare yourself for like you would with a soulmate. Instead it requires emotional and mental preparation and physically putting yourself out there.

It is possible to have your Soulmate also be your Life Partner and it is also possible that you and your Life Partner can develop a deeper, soul connection- it all just depends on which direction you choose to steer.

Here are the different characteristics of each relationship:

Soulmate Relationship

  • You feel a deep, spiritual connection to this person almost like you have known them for a long time.
  • You have flashbacks or deja vu moments where you feel that you have been together before.
  • You seem to understand each other and have a similar way of thinking.
  • You may have similar flaws or habits, or you both had similar challenges during childhood.
  • Your connection is intense and so too is the relationship. Often it can move from extreme highs to extreme lows.
  • You feel in sync with each other even when you are not physically together. There may be a feeling of having to team up together to conquer something.
  • You know intuitively what the other is thinking or feeling. You feel very in-tune and connected with their thoughts and actions.
  • Your relationship is emotional, challenging and can bring things out in you that you didn’t know existed.
  • You may experience huge shifts and changes in your life when you first meet this person.
  • Your relationship may not last forever but the love is always there.

Life Partner Relationship

  • You feel attracted to each other physically and resonate with each others values.
  • You enjoy getting to know each other and learn about your differences and similarities- everything about each other feels new and exciting.
  • You get along like best friends- your relationship does not suffer from extremes.
  • Your relationship is based on logical or intellectual decisions.
  • You resonate with each others beliefs, ideas or religion/philosophy.
  • You both feel a sense of financial and emotional stability by being together.
  • Your relationship is based on being physically present and creating new memories.
  • You feel the need to marry or start a family in order to ‘cement’ your relationship.

At different times of our lives we will need and want different types of relationships. Neither is better or worse than the other, it is all a personal decision and one that you will feel guided to as long as you are following your heart.

(Ok, a lot of you asked about Twin Flames so I sat down with my spirit guides and this is what they told me….Read more here)

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  • Carrol

    can a life partner be someone nonromantic? Or just just a really good friends?

    • A life partner most likely would be a romantic partner however, it may also just be someone that you value and care for deeply as a friend but you choose to spend your life together…hope that makes sense?

    • Martia

      Yes, of course

  • Reagan

    Hey. So can I have a soulmate turn into a life partner? I feel like we have had a lot of learning to do the first two years of our relationship. It was extreme in every way. Couldn’t handle it, and we broke up. Not for very long but felt like an eternity. We both never considered anyone else. And now it seems to be completely different even compared to the very first time we started. More relaxed, time moves by slower. (Sounds crazy but before time would move so fast it felt like we got nothing done and it made it hard to remember what happened when we were together). Although our love for each other is still very strong and the life and family we wanted with each other has never changed. We’ve become more patient and trusting with each other also.

    • Absolutely, I definitely think that we can have relationships that start out as one and then shift into another. Quite frankly, that is the best of both worlds! I had a similar experience in my relationship. There were so many changes in the beginning and so many heightened emotions. We were on and off, then on and off but then suddenly, everything sort of clicked into place. It took work but it was more internal. He really shook up many of my own insecurities and fears, and I know I did the same for him. After all that passed, we are now in such a good place and have been so for years. This is not always typical, but it is nice to know that it can happen. 🙂

  • Shane

    A life partner could be a friend; I have friends that I haven’t seen in years, but it doesn’t matter. I believe we could be friends all our lives and so they could be potential life partners and have no romantic feelings towards them. And yet still I have a different kind of life partner whom I want to marry and have a family with. There are endless possibilities in everyones lives 😀

    • yes, there are endless possibilities! we definitely should not limit ourselves to just one way of thinking. Even though this article is painting relationships as being one or the other, it really is just a guide. Nothing in this life is black and white. Thank you for sharing your insights and reminding us of the possibilities 🙂

      • Genius

        Yes I completely agree. I rather use the term seasonal partnership because I believe room reach my soul would mean a bout room deep to break.

  • Crob

    I am balancing both. Over the course of 8 years I could not decide. When my ex and I broke up I met my soul mate. My ex and I have however been through so many life altering moments together – the loss of a child, material ascension, material loss, family. We have a bond which is not about passion, but eternally love like family. We get in the trenches together and share the good times. My soul mate and I are connected – we’ve walked the same paths – even with addresses near each other before we knew each other. We are always in the same place of thinking and experiences – even ailments at the same time -lol. I’ve always been monogamous, this time time in my life was very different for me. I tried to figure out how I loved these two men to equal extents, but differently, and even make a decision to which one (both are free spirited but loyal in love as well) I wanted the soul mate to commit 100%, but that is not what we have. This article describes my life and brings clarity.

    • I am glad you received clarity! Through our relationships we truly do some of our deepest work! Our partners are really just a mirror, reflecting back to us what we need to see…. 🙂

  • Jae M.

    Gosh this article is great and put a lot into perspective for me. I am married to my soul mate. Our relationship has been in the works for 8 years. We dated 8 years ago; it was too intense and we clearly weren’t ready for each other so we remained friends. Somehow 7 years later, in different states we gravitated towards each other. It was as if lightening had struck us and we couldn’t let go. Next month will be our one year anniversary, and our relationship is either really high or low. Seems like there’s hardly any “in between” for us. There are so many times when we want to give up, but don’t because our love is so intense. My partner pushes me and can be a bit harsh for my sensitive Piscean soul, but I’ve learned so much about myself in the process. We connect on a level that is sometimes beyond me. We know what each other is thinking, feeling, and sometimes even just blurt out the same random sentences, etc. I just wish that we knew how to swim through our strong currents a bit more efficiently, so we can enjoy the calming of the sea. Not sure if that makes sense or not! Anywho, thank you for the article…. I loved it! ❤️

    • That is beautiful! What an amazing connection you share. You are very lucky. I feel that in time, things will begin to settle for you and your partner. 🙂 If you tend to fall into old habits, try to assess what is not working and see what you can do to shift the energy.

  • I have a lady that I love so much, we have beena dating for two years now but last month we had a serious fight that we had to broke up for 6days but now we are back together and I found out through her Facebook messages that while we weren’t together for the 6days she had sex with another guy, I felt so bad about it but I love her so much and im willing to forgive her. Please I need ur advice on this issue. Thank u

    • Sorry to hear about this Josh. Unfortunately, when it comes to love and emotion, things can get tricky and painful very quickly. Try bringing acceptance to the situation and allow her to step forward and express how she feels. If it’s meant to be, it will all work out. If you would like some guidance why not check out our intuitive coaching section- http://intuitivecoaching.foreverconscious.com

  • Karletta

    Excellent article.

  • Towana B.

    Love the article – #truth

  • I love this article. I shared it with my friends on Facebook. I’m sure everyone will get a lot out of it. It was clear and easy to read 🙂 Like some of the comments, I too feel like I have a soul mate life/partner and this helped me pinpoint all the great things about our relationship and how it has evolved and grown. It makes me feel very blessed to know I have so many soul mates around me. Thank you for the clarification of my relationship, reminder of how special my friends are, and for sharing your thoughts with us.

    • Thanks Ken! Your words are so kind. Feeling the love!

  • Wow this article is amazing!

    • Thank you Darla! I am so glad you enjoyed it 🙂

  • Walter Perry

    My wife and I just read it…….

  • Nya

    I really enjoyed this article. It helped me 100%

  • DeLisa

    All I can say is WOW! I am 41 years old and never been married. This article put soo much into perspective for me. I dated a guy for 3 years and we just recently broke up for the fourth time. I promised him and myself that I wouldn’t go back again. The relationship was too intense.. extreme highs and lows. Recently I met a guy who is also a Cancer and he is so calm and easy to talk to and we are like friends. At first I was thinking is this not going anywhere but reading this article I am getting what I need right now and that’s someone to talk to and start off slow. This guy is marriage minded and wants to get back into church so we share the same ideas about religion.. Such a breath of fresh air. Thank you for this article!

  • previously, I thought that, soul mate is mate. after reading your article. I believe,
    we should be life partner of each other. 🙂

  • Elissa

    I have to disagree with a lot that was said. Karmatized is not the right word for anything related to soul mate neither the word past life.
    A soul mate is someone on a spiritual level you both are insinced. Know matter where each of you are the synchronization is still happening like discernment. I would advise first to anyone to learn to have a intimate relationship with God. AA lot of times when you think your soul mate is going to come chasing after you, remember theres a first will of God which is your soul mate choosing you, and there’s a secondary choice of them making their choice to settle for whom they choose. Kinda like fulfilling the scripture of when a man puts a woman away by his choice. So, don’t get focused on the guy you think is going to come running after you. I will say focus on making a great change happening in your life. Now you may go through a relationship based on making you learn the lesson that you learn your not being yourself or who you were meant by God to be. Including may be a mind abuse, physical, mentally trying to damage and lose who God meant for you to be by tearing you down trying to get in your head playing your emotions with their abusive words. But you know what know matter what your going to come out of all that, & meet someone good & who loves you through all their and your flaws God blessed you with someone that loves you & saved your soul.

  • Nas

    I am lucky to have met my soulmate during my early twenties. And he shaped me into who I am today. We were attracted to each other immediately the first time we met but not in the physical sense. We can read each other’s minds and feelings, we both know the other better than we know ourselves. To the point where it scared the hell out of me at some point in time. We share the same views about life and on many other things. During the first years of knowing each other, he was able to make me feel like the happiest person on earth but there were also times when I hated him. My worst cries were because of him. Our relationship wasn’t sexual although we did feel some form attraction towards each other but couldnt understand what it was. We couldnt define what we had. But whatever we had was too intense for him and there were several times he told me to stay away from him for the sake of my happiness. What he didnt know was that we would be drawn to each other time and time again. We are both married now to our own life partners and have our own families. We don’t even meet up anymore but when we do call to keep in touch, it feels as though we have been in touch all the while. The most peculiar thing that happened was when his daughter was born earlier than the expected due date, on my birthday! He often appears in my dreams and I remember them vividly.

    • Wow! thats incredible! What an inspiring story 🙂 Thank you so much for sharing.

  • Tamika

    This article is truly amazing and I know for sure now that my late husband was my soulmate!

  • Toya K

    Wonderful article!!! My ex actually sent it to me and we had a brief discussion regarding her take on it. I am sure that she’s my soul mate and life partner… Thanks for bringing clarity to our situation.

  • Noelle

    I swear as I soon as I ask the Universe a question, I am given the answer. I am truly blessed. This time, the answer came thru this article.

    I am currently dating a man I have been friends with for 14 years. Our friendship has always been strictly platonic, although I have always found him very attractive and smoulderingly sexy. Over the years, I have dated a few men that I discovered were in fact my soulmates. (I discovered our various soul connections thru my study of astrology as well as what my own intuition has told me over the years.) However, NONE of those relationships felt like this one does. With him, I feel…safe. Not familiar, despite our 14 year friendship. But safe. He is my best friend. We find ourselves thinking the same thoughts, hours apart. And sometimes, minutes apart. Every single point that you mentioned in the life partner list covers our relationship. Our relationship definitely requires each other’s physical presence. In fact—demands it. We leave each other and we are missing each other within a matter of hours. I have no doubt this man will ask me to marry him within the year. And he adores my daughter.

    The question I kept asking was…”Why doesn’t this feel like everything else did?” Why am I not experiencing really high highs and really low lows? Why don’t I have butterflies? Why I do feel so playful with him? Why is he so playful with me? Why do I not have one worry about his activities when he’s not with me? Why is he so loving, affectionate, and patient with me? This isn’t a soulmate connection, is it?

    Now I know that it isn’t. And I couldn”t be happier. Thank you. ☺

    • I got tingles when I read your comment! Thank you so much for sharing this.

    • BJ

      That is exactly how I felt about my husband (Life Partner) – who, by the way, I married just 6 months after we met. Totally at ease, no crazy emotions or “crush butterflies” – the kind of passion that is really warm and sweet and can last a lifetime , instead of stupid hot that burns out. We just celebrated our 27th anniversary and are more in love now than ever.

      • that is beautiful! thanks Bj.

  • tim

    My wife was my soulmate .Everything that was described in the article was us even to the point where we had talked in recent years about life has calmed down maybe a little too much maybe we had learned the thing we were ment to learn from each other over the last 25 years and than she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died 3 months later .How do you get past the loss of a soul mate ? I wish i could hear our private song our souls would sing just one more time ….

    • I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. Know that you can reach out to her whenever you want- all you have to do is ask. The beauty about soul mate love is that, you don’t have to physically be together to experience it. It is very much an energy that is present with you always. I am sure if you reached out to her in a meditation or private moment, you will receive a message 🙂

  • Olly

    Great content. It seems that all along, I have attributed the “soul mate” qualities to a twin flame. And attributed “life partner” qualities to what you’ve described as a soul mate. How would you define a twin flame? How does a twin flame differ from a soul mate? I’m a Pisces who has been dating a Sagittarius for a couple of years and he recently ended it. I’m really hurt by it, and I feel very attached and have accessed two past lives of ours in my dreams. Idk if he is my twin flame or soul mate or anything at all, but the calm, gentle pull I felt towards him and vice versa was so obvious immediately. And mostly, I’m afraid his ego is ruining what could be a dynamic relationship. So, anyways, I’d love help decided if he is my twin flame or soul mate or life partner, or just another ex lol.

    • I am glad you bought this up, a twin flame relationship is one that transcends both space, time and the physical world. Usually the connection is very intense, and both of you are bought together to work on a greater cause whether its physical or spiritual. Meeting your twin flame is literally like meeting your other half, sometimes you may even look similar. Twin flame love transcends the usual “human relationship” stuff and you are able to feel a deeper connection no matter if you are together or not. The purpose of your relationship is for a higher, global cause not a personal one. There are many philosophies on Twin flames, but this is my understanding 🙂

  • Kaminah

    This article was so enlightening. I recently completed a soul contract reading on me and my ex and we have the same soul destiny number which is 6. Im married to someone else but still feel a really strong attraction and connection to my ex as we had a very intense relationship for 3 years riddle with ebbs and flows. This article helped put things in perspective for me. Im hopeful that one day we can evolve into soul mates and life partners.

    • Hi Kaminah, yes having the same life path or destiny number can be a sign of compatibility! Who knows where life will take you, I firmly believe if it’s meant to happen it will. Light and love to you.

  • unique ivory

    Wow my man sent this to me and i have his contact name in my phone as soulmate now i realize je is my life mate as well

  • Bianca

    These are great insights. However, will we feel as if something is missing with our Life Partner, considering the soul connection isn’t as profound and we know that we had a stronger connection with our Soul Mate, even if that relationship was unstable? Basically don’t we always want to grow and learn and feel a strong connection? I am ready for a life partner but am a very deep person and like to feel connected and challenged. Thank you!

    • From my experience, I feel that a life partner is someone that we grow to love more and more each day. Maybe initially there is something there, but over time we do develop deep and meaningful connections with our life partners. With soulmates however, there is usually an unexplainable, instant connection or recognition of self…again, every one’s experiences are different but this what I have found!

  • pam

    I have finally notice soulmate that I experience this with 2 men recently the emotions was so high that they block me from there life leaving me sad and uneasy… I was sharing and caring and knew it was a deep connection but they ran and ran fast leaving me in awe… Now I hope the 3 time is the charm with my life partner finding me… Great article help me with what I was feeling

  • Pam

    Great article help me recognized that I just experience 2 encounters with soul mates not my life partners… The emotions was so strong with extreme highs and lows the lows so bad that they block me from there life like I never exist but I feel the connection and growth would never leave even if they never talk to me again but they will always remember me

    • thank you for your insights Pam!

  • Kay

    i am so happy that I found this article! It helped to explain a significant relationship. I everything you stated about the soulmate is so true! When I met him it seemed like we had known each other all our lives. I didn’t even know I could feel that way about someone. I can honestly say that I’ve never felt so safe and strong and beautiful with anyone in my life. Although we’re not together, I can honestly tell you that I will probably love him for the rest of my life. In reading your article I was able understand this relationship so much better. Since it ended I’ve not Met anyone who gets me at this level. Now the problem is waiting for my life partner. I’m praying that he shows up soon. Thanks so much for the information!!!

    • you are so welcome Kay!

  • BJ

    I LOVE this article because it totally reinforces how I’ve always thought about the 2 great loves in my life my husband (Life Partner) and my gay boyfriend (Soul Mate) they totally fall under their categories pretty perfectly. Soul Mate had a profound impact on my life emotionally and on my character and we still have a kind of psychic connections even now living in separate states. Life partner gives me true love and balance we compliment each other and our relationship is so easy. No one I would rather navigate this life with by my side.

  • Jenn

    What happens when the person you married is both of these things?

    • there can definitely be a cross-over!

  • DESTINY

    Hi,

    I found my soulmate almost 2 years ago and our lives haven’t been the same since the moments we met. Everything changed in the most drastic way possible. It was beautiful but intense crazy at the same time. We had flashbacks, talked about things that we haven’t even experienced together. The good times are amazing and the bad times feel like hell. We have the same gifts and talents, but we also have the same demons, I swear its like we share something that we both can’t even put our finger on. As I know usually soul mates physically separate (and sometimes for the better cause its too much to handle on this planet) I feel like we are also in the works to become life partners, at first we had no idea how to be, because we first had to adjust to the intense connection. It took us almost 2 years to get this thing under control, but I am so glad you wrote this article because it illustrates the strong difference between the two. I love my soulmate with all of my heart and I want her to be every bit apart of my life and the next lives to come. Thank you for showing us how to get through this one… Together 🙂

  • Atudorquene

    A good article, albeit I tend to prefer the original Ancient Greek concept of soulmate. My life partner is also my soulmate and we have been together in MANY lives. Thus far 30 years in this one and we already know even death will not separate us. Sometimes it gets tough, we are both intense personalities, but the lessons must be learned to evolve.

    • that is beautiful! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  • dirty_lickings

    A relationship is a series or course of actions in which a mutual exchange (of love, information, etc) takes place between consenting adults.

    Why the need to label and define relationships?

    • I agree that labels are often unnecessary, but in this case I think it has really helped stimulate clarity in people’s lives. Nothing is ever black and white, it is just my hope that this information helps to stir things within you to help bring you to wherever you need to be 🙂

    • Acai

      Why not? It needn’t interefere with the relationship, it’s just an attempt to understand it. And in the case of a genuine soulmate, it’s just inner knowledge that comes from who-knows-where, it’s not a label put there by the person. There’s no attempt to define that, if it’s genuine. It just IS that.

  • Ericka

    Me and my husband’s relationship has qualities of both soulmate and life partner. It does seem like this life is the first we have met in, but we do know what the other is thinking most of the time. How likely is it that this relationship could be both?

    • very likely! there is the potential for crossover.

  • kay

    So what do you do when you’re married to your life partner but can’t let go of your soul mate,

    • We have deep bonds with our soulmates, so that connection will always be there, you can’t let it rule your life though or destroy your other relationships. It’s about accepting and appreciating the connection and then bringing peace to what is 🙂

  • Awakened

    I was forwarded this article by someone who considers me their lifemate. That person is also very much still in love with a person who they consider their soulmate. Having had a soulmate experience myself and also judging by the fact that 90% of the comments here are regarding soulmates, I actually consider the label lifemate somewhat insulting. It implies boredom, compliance, habit, safety…not romantic love. I wonder if given a choice how many of us would prefer one label over the other.

    • I definitely don’t feel that life partner implies boredom! Yes, soulmate has a glamorous connotation but it’s all just words. And there can definitely be romantic love between life partners- there really has to be for it to work! Neither is inferior or superior, it all just depends on what works for you.

  • kay

    I think Im torn in between someone who I feel is my soulmate and my current life partner..I’m not sure what to do. How do I decide? Please help!!

    • Don’t try to force the answer, instead allow the answer to come to you. Forget about trying to determine which one and just accept what is. Through this process, the answer will definitely come to you!

  • This article blew my mind. I’ve been with my husband for 3.5 years. When I met him, I wanted a life partner. I craved someone to do the day-to-day bits of life beside, and he’s been an incredible friend through it all. We love each other, care profoundly for each others success, and have no issues with our marriage.

    4 weeks ago I reconnected with an old ex of mine, and it’s felt unbelievably frustrating… I feel this inexplicable connection to him, and he even just recently said to me, “Doesn’t it feel as if we’ve known one another in a past life?” There’s this spark, this intellectual draw towards one another. It’s deeper and bigger than sex (though attraction is there).

    My husband it 100% aware of the situation, and has lovingly respected my individuality while I traverse these feelings. He’s a very open-minded, mature person, and that’s the only way I think he’s able to look at me as a level-headed, trustworthy, complex person. Because of this mutual intimacy and trust, we’re able to allow each other space to think and be.

    I have felt so strange with this attraction to my ex, because I’m committed to my husband and have no desire to leave him, for my ex or any other reason. Additionally, I don’t want to just have a physical affair with my ex –even if my husband “gave me a pass,” not just if it was cheating– because I respect my ex so much that I want him only to be with someone that can commit to him, and give him all of their heart.

    So what’s left? Just a burning desire, a profound emotional closeness, and a draw towards one another even after years apart. I won’t cheat on or leave my husband, and it seems I should end the friendship with my ex so I can be “100% committed and emotionally faithful” to my husband. A part of me thinks that’s a bit of an antiquated sentiment, but I’m not entirely sure.

    This article has definitely given me some peace. Now I am trying to think of what might be learned from this latest reconnection with my ex–is it a learning moment for me? For my ex? For all of us, even my husband?

    It’s fascinating. Thank you for this article. Any additional reading recommendations on this topic?

  • A.T

    I’ve met someone who I think is my soulmate. There was that instant connection. That deep spiritual fire between us and we definitely thought we knew each other in past lives. After a month, things got too intense and we couldn’t serve each other anymore. We are not even on speaking terms. Still I can’t let go. I feel this intense love for him and I want another “episode” if that makes sense. I really wish he could be my life partner because I want that in my life. But I don’t think he’s ready for that at the moment. I feel like he’s blocked me from his life in consequence of me telling him “we can’t serve each other anymore.” Now after another month of no contact my heart is yearning. Do you think he’s feeling the same thing or is this one sided and am I just crazy? I keep getting this gut feeling to reach out but I don’t want to be ignored again. I think our story isn’t over but I’m not sure if it’s just my ego being attached to him. Do you think we can eventually evolve into life partners? How do I give him “enough” time to heal what he’s going through? How can I know when to connect with him again? How do I know if he’s equally still longing for me? He seemed to not be able to go a day without talking to me during the short relationship. Please help. I’ve had enough of pondering this daily.

    • It sounds like you need to honor the fact that he is asking for space. When you honor that and lose attachment, you will know if he is meant to come back in your life. Once you let go, you give him the chance to return. But if you keep holding on, energetically he will push further. I think if you focus on YOU and start learning to be unattached to him, you will notice a huge shift. Perhaps try this exercise: http://foreverconscious.com/how-to-cut-etheric-cords-a-ritual-you-need-to-know Also remember, soul relationships are so much deeper than the physical…

      • A.T.

        I understand. Initially it was ME that was asking for space and I guess he took it personal. Once I asked for 3 days to myself with no contact and he couldn’t honor that. Then at the end of the short relationship I asked for indefinite time to myself to heal. He got offended that I wanted to be on my own for a while. I really just needed a few weeks and now he won’t speak to me at all. You’re right though. I need to energetically detach myself. Maybe it’s not him I’m even attached to. I just miss the intimate companionship.

        • It can be tricky in relationships- there are SO many feelings and most of the time both parties are super sensitive and vulnerable. It sounds like he felt wounded due to the fact that you needed space away from him. I am sure he will come around and hopefully the two of you can bring some peace and closure with whatever you decide.

  • JaJa

    Soulmates…there are a few. My late spouse was the first, only I didnt realize it at the time. Twas a coach/athlete relationship not really a marriage. And yes I learned much. Then Beverly, whom I met through my spouse. Twas amazing the immediate spark between us. Talk about finishing each other’s thuoghts and words. This happened again with Marie. I sold her a Saturn and we have been soul sisters ever since. Much in common. It’s like talking to myself. Through laughter and tears we’ve moved foward on our journey. Funny thing is we’re not friends, well I dont think so. So much more than friends, Soulmates. We speak once or twice a year and it’s like we were never apart. I still get that positive energy connection every time I chat with them. They also have a big place in my heart. Glory was the soulmate/friend. Lots of ups and downs. We’d cruise along for years at a time then she’d drop out of sight. No contact at all. (Currently on the no contact year.) I figure she’s more soulmate and less friend at this point. This broke my heart as we were extremely close. But she saw things in me I’d never see in myself. I’ve learned a lot and am truly grateful for our past friendship. Currently I have a life partner of which I’ve affirmed and manifested. He’s wonderful ! We get on so very well. We laugh and sing play when we’re together. Most of all he’s supportive and loving. And I don’t think it hurts that we’re both Cancerians. Thanks for validating my thoughts on Soulmates
    Shalom

    • I am glad your thoughts were validated 🙂

  • Nina

    This is an eye opener. the last few weeks I’ve felt that my heart has been in search of something I couldn’t identify. I have been with my life partner for 13 years and I feel that this article is revealing that my heart may be in search of my soulmate.

    • I am so glad this helped you receive some clarity Nina.

  • Sean T

    What seems to be a dichotomy between the two relationship examples in the article has been a subtle but constant tension that has existed within my relationship with my wife since our initial introduction. Together we consciously pull one another into greater levels of self awareness and at times we seem to get so far ahead of our loving nurturing space that we often have to stop, recollect, regroup, and apply some “earthly” sense of personal connection, not out of a sense of mindful human obligation but rather an understanding of what can often become a compartmentalized aspect of our relationship. We have for sometime operated under the mutual agreement that our individual growth, expansion, and knowledge of self is paramount in this particular lifetime. However, we are increasingly mindful that the space we’ve created is one that is big enough to entertain a “BOTH/AND” rather than an “EITHER/OR” conversation. So as we continue to learn to fly to greater and greater heights in our individual self discovery, we invariably take with us a sense of common ground.
    Thank you for this article!!!!

    • you are so welcome! Sean 🙂

  • Sydney

    I have been trying to explain this very things to some friends of mine regarding my ex-boyfriend (that hasn’t been the best at times), but we are connected for life, regardless of what has happened. We definitely operate in extremes. This article helped me feel better about having him in my life from time to time. Thank you! 🙂

  • Shainna

    I swear this article put so many things in perspective for me. I’d been with my boyfriend for a year & 1/2. I definitely see myself being with him, being his wife & havi,g a family and everything. He totally is my life partner. My soul mate however I’ve know for 4 years. Our relationship was intense from the beginning, both sexually & emotionally. But we knew we could never be together. But to this day he is a huge part of my life. He’s been the constant, even with me dating other guys & him dating other girls. We always find time to check on each other. I saw him recently (we live in different states) the second I saw him the connection was there immediately. But we are totally okay being just friends. My love for him has never undercut the love I have for my boyfriend. And I didn’t I how to sort out my feelings until I read this article.

    Thank you for writing this.

    • that’s great! thank you 🙂

    • Tammy

      I completely relate to this. Our stories are so similar. In fact, I recently started wondering if something was wrong because in my new relationship, there isn’t the same intensity that I had with my soul mate. As you said, this article puts in in perspective for me. I recognize the difference and reading this actually helps me and my view of my current relationship with a man that I love and want to spend my life with. He is my life partner. I have known that for sometime, but have doubted myself because it is not like things are with my soulmate.

      • moonlight

        wow, I agree with the both of you. .

    • I am so happy to hear that this article has helped guide you!

    • Neeha WS

      Wow i’m currently with my boyfriend of 6 years and which is my soulmate but for some reason i feel we no longer need to be together. The love i have for him i will always have .This article really changed my perspective about soulmates. i figured if someone was your soulmate that meant you could not see yourself with someone else or let alone without that person.

  • nandani

    This is amazing article. Thanks for describing the relationship between soul mate and life partner. I also encounter same situation, having a good friend and another friend with whom I am thinking to marry. But now I am in dilemma, with whom I should marry. My view is that your soulmate and your life partner is one person. You can’t have different person in your life. What your opinion on that.

    • your soulmate can also be your life partner. Go with your heart 🙂

    • Brianna LaPoint

      Everyone is different. Dont limit things. Expect the unexpected. Maybe you have an idea in your head that may not ring true?

  • Roxanne

    I think somehow a life partner can also be a soul mates with who you learned to live in some equilibrium of the intense. If you manage to get over the first crazy years, you can realize that your soul mate can also be the one who has something to teach you for many calmer years, or a life long.

    • I completely agree! Thanks for sharing

    • Martin Youniverse

      Yes I agree..I found my soulmate for sure and I believe my life partner..being with a soulmate at first is quite intense and can be rough but when you realize you also have found your life partner things smooth on out. I’m madly happy

      • Yes, totally agreed. I definitely think that soulmates can work to become life partners.

        • Cheyenne Dane

          tanaaz: i attended srjc- majored in music- in the late 90’s- there were two sisters there at the time and one bore your name. i half wonder if it’s you 🙂

  • SarahBeth818

    But can your soulmate be your life partner too? or even at differnt times? maybe they enter your life as a soulmate and then it evolves into a life partner?

    • Yes, absolutely. 🙂

    • Yes, absolutely! I definitely think they can evolve into each other

  • Matt Baker

    I would never marry someone who was ONLY a life partner. It would be unfulfilling for me and unfair to the other person.

    • I think a relationship with a life partner can be extremely rewarding and fulfilling. I guess everyone is different though! Different things work for different people 🙂

  • Jasmin Robinson

    I met my soulmate as in my twenties very intense emotional and the physical aspect was great but my life partner I am married to now in my thirties and its a pure partnership we really have each other back. I very secure in my MARRIAGE.

  • Jasmin Robinson

    I met my soulmate as in my twenties very intense emotional and the physical aspect was great but my life partner I am married to now in my thirties and its a pure partnership we really have each other back. I very secure in my MARRIAGE

    • that’s great Jasmin! Its wonderful that you got to experience both!

  • perri

    “•Your relationship is based on being physically present and creating new memories.” This is really big. I definitely feel a sense of the past and like…a timelessness with my soulmates. There’s so much to dredge up and deal with. But a life partner is someone that you can’t do that with (or perhaps feel no need to do that with) so you are left with/feel free to make new memories.

    • yes! this was a deep one so I am glad it resonated and made sense 🙂

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  • monimillie33

    This is awesome & quite insightful! I have my soul mate & life partner all in one! <3 And the journey of our relationship is properly described in the description of each, it's amazing! <3

  • MotivationalMe

    That’s not a Soul mate that is a Twin Flame. I have studied and experienced this phenomena. I would like to see the author update the word and yes semantics are important. The accurate definition is: “(twinflame) are two different concepts. Throughout a lifetime one has many soulmates, but throughout eternity, one has only one twinsoul or ‘twinflame’. The idea of the Twin Flame Soul Mate is often romanticaly idealized, but the dynamic of this sacred and spiritual union is based on unconditional love and oneness. Twinflame relationships can be more challenging than soulmate relationships because of the intense energies involved in preperation for the spiritual work they will do on earth. 

    Soul MatesThroughout our lives we will have many Soulmates. A soulmate relationship can take many different forms such as that of a good friend, a family member, a romantic partner, or even a co-worker. Brief encounters with strangers who inspire us or help us in some way can also be soulmates who we are meant to cross paths with. 

    The reason for establishing the relationship and the conditions surrounding the meeting is usually predetermined prior to birth. It is the Law of Karma that brings the soulmates together. These relationships exist in order to to help us grow and learn important lessons by balancing the karmic ties that have binded you together through other lifetimes. We may incarnate at the same time as many of our karmic soulmates in multiple lifetimes until the karmic energies are balanced. 

    Soulmates can impact our lives in many ways and the relationship can sometimes end abruptly if the karma can not be resolved, or if new karmic ties are created. You may indeed meet them again in another lifetime to resolve any issues, sometimes even reversing relationship roles. Through our interactions and relationships with others we learn more about who we are. Karmic relationships give us the opportunity to grow. 

    The Twin Flame (Twin Soul)

    Twin flames, also called twin souls and twin rays, is ‘one soul’ that was split into two souls. Twinflames are often referred to as being the other half of one’s own soul. This does not imply that each twin is only half of a soul on earth, for each individual soul is already whole. What a Twin Flame does imply is that at one time, the two individual souls were one. 

    We each have only one twin. In the beginning, the One soul was split into two and each went their separate ways. Each twin may continue to re-incarnate into the physical realm over and over to gather human experience and to balance karma with soulmates before being re-united with the other half of their over-soul in a lifetime. Eventually, the twinflames will merge back into the One soul that they were before the split into the two twin souls. The early stages of this reunion usually happens in both of their last lifetimes on the planet so they can complete the Ascension process together. 

    “Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. 
    They’re in each other all along” ~rumi
    Each twin is a complete soul, not half a soul. It is their task to become more whole together, balancing their female and male sides (masculine and feminine energies), and ideally become enlightened, before reuniting with their twin. This reunion is of two complete and whole beings. All other relationships through all our lives could be said to be “practice” for the twin, the ultimate relationship. The Twin Flame connection is the ultimate Alchemical Marriage”. –

    REFERENCE

    http://www.twinflamesoulmates.com/#.dpuf

    • Hi, thanks for your detailed response. I believe that a twin flame is a type of soulmate. 🙂

    • Beautifully written! I married my twin flame two weeks ago. 🙂

    • cheeze.wiz

      I’ll never be with my twinflame

  • Shereen

    I enjoyed reading this very much it was very enlightening

  • Robs

    I just lost both in one. My beloved lost her brief battle with a virulent cancer. Hard to conceive I could ever have a connection that deep with anyone else.

    • dawnwoodward

      so sorry for your devastating loss. may loving memories be a comfort to you.

    • I am sorry to hear of your loss. You will never loose your connection, it exists in a place that is timeless and boundless. She is always there. As for what comes next in the physical world, be open and know that whatever is meant to find you will always come your way. Light and love to you

  • twinrayreiki.com

    Just don’t mistake either for a twin flame…..<3 Totally different ball game…….<3

  • sunny35555

    Can your pet be your soulmate, my dog Rocky passed away January 2014. I loved and adored my dog, and I felt the same love back. He was with me through break ups, moving out of my parent home, moving to a new city, returning to my parent home, fall out with a best friend, to finishing my Master’s Degree. He died about a month after I finished my Master’s. I still miss him very much, but he was there unconditionally for me, and then he was gone. I found out he had cancer in January, and about 2 weeks later I had to have him euthanized. I have never had a connection with a person, like I had with my Rocky. He was the light of my life. So, I was just wondering if your pets could also be a soulmate?

    • Yes, I definitely feel that you can have strong connections to animals and they can be a type of soulmate. Animals can also come to us as “guardians” sort of like a spirit guide to help us navigate through our soul journey. It sounds like this dog came into your life to help you through some of the challenges you were experiencing, and then left when his work was done. 🙂

      • sunny35555

        Thank you, that makes sense, I feel the same way, that he was with me through a lot of obstacles throughout my life. I really miss him, he was definitely a true friend and a guardian. I think I still feel him around me. I miss him so much.
        thanks again for your response

      • breed7

        This is why Tanaaz is an uneducated moron. She can’t even follow the rules she made up. A “type of soulmate”? You obviously don’t even believe your own bullshit. Quit taking advantage of people who are even dumber than you, and stop writing this total crap.

      • Vivian

        I had a white cat with blue eyes for 16 years. She arrived on my porch one winter day, and I never knew where she came from She was only a couple of months old. She saw me through some very rough times in my life. I always believed she was my guardian angel. She died 30 years ago and I still miss her.

    • Brianna LaPoint

      I dont see why not.

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  • Tuh

    A friend of mine who I liked and he liked me as well very much but we never dated. I was either dating someone or he was and we never got to have the conversation we need to have and he’s passed now. And I feel devastated. I was not prepared for the amount of loss I feel. I knew I would be sad and miss him dearly but I am devasted. I cry every single day. I feel empty. Hollow. Did I lose my soul mate?

    • I am so sorry for your loss. But know that he is not lost, his energy will always live on. Have you tried talking to him?

    • Brianna LaPoint

      You must learn to love yourself. Sometimes things go wrong in life. I have someone in my life but there was someone i felt a connection to, he never felt that way about me. I put my feelings on the table and he made the final decision (?) well for better or worse, im moving on and i cant play this “game” anymore. Im done being tormented by someone who is unsure of themselves and what they want in life.

  • Feriel Mezzi

    i needed this. God bless you

    • blessing back to you Feriel 🙂

  • Brianna LaPoint

    I am with my soulmate. My twinflame……well lets just say I believe just because you love someone doesnt mean they love themselves. I am learning to love myself and be more mindful of words and actions.

  • Stephen Boland

    Hi, and thank you for sharing this very interesting article! I would like to know some of the aspects one might find in an Astrological synastry chart that may point to two people being life partners! I am new to your website, so I will have a look around and see if perhaps you have written about this previously. Thanks again…I love your site!

    • thanks Stephen! I actually don’t have an article about synastry, but you have just given me an idea! glad you are enjoying the site 🙂

  • Sasha

    I think I’ve met my soulmate; actually I’m positive. The physical separation you write about occurred a couple of months ago, now I’m scared that I won’t be able to be in a long-term relationship with someone else because the connection never feels deep enough.

    • You have to trust. Remember, we can have multiple soulmates and as you evolve and move through your life, you will have different energetic experiences and connections. The more you remain open to the possibilities of feeling something new, the better 🙂

  • els

    I have lost my soul mate/ life partner after 49 yrs together. Will I be with her in the next life & can I talk to her now?

    • breed7

      No and no. Sorry for your loss, but this article is total bullshit.

    • Unfortunately I have no idea if you will be with her in the next life! However, you can talk to her. Find a quiet place, go into a mediation and speak with her there. You will hear her response in your heart. Blessings to you.

  • breed7

    It’s fascinating to read such unintelligent nonsense. Is this what people with below-average intelligence spend their time thinking about? Not only is it exceptionally poorly written, but it can’t even make a coherent point.

  • forever bre

    <3

  • Ashley Munden

    Reading this makes me feel some type of way. I’m content in my relationship and I would love for it to be a “life partner” relationship and I feel like we almost meet every soulmate point and a lot of the life partners points as well. I feel like a relationship can be a great mixture of both and have the potential of working out. saying that soulmate relationships never usually end up lasting kind of scares me. I would want something as wonderful as a relationship like that to last forever. I understand that things happen but having a life partner can also be someone you can consider your soul mate and it lasting. that’s just how I feel

    • Hi Ashley, thank you for your comment! Firstly I just want to say it is not my intention to scare you…yes, soulmate connections are often not forever in a romantic sense, but they are very much forever in a spiritual sense. There are many soulmates who end up together and live happily ever after….but this is not always the case and sometimes people have a hard time dealing with that. Our soulmate connections are here to evolve us, that is their very intention…their main intention is not “romance”. This is what is misleading about “soulmates”…they are not designed just to be great romantic lovers (this is a great bonus!), they are really designed to move us to the next level of consciousness.

  • Daniel W. McCullar

    A soul mate can also be a life partner. It really just depends on what that persons purpose is in your life and vise verse. But a physical relationship with a soul mate or someone even stronger can be one of the most difficult and painful experiences. I know!

  • Ericka Birdsong

    WOW…this made some things in my life so clear…I am just 10 days away from getting married and often wondered how I could be marrying “him” when I had such a strong connection to my ex. My ex is certainly my soulmate. He challenged me in so many ways and our relationship was certainly intense so it always seemed strange that we could never stay together. For almost 6 years we were on and off, and would go as long as 10 months without speaking, then somehow run into each other and it was like we never lost contact. However the relationship with “him”, my fiance, has been a constant partnership, friendship, and everything I have been longing for. He really is my life partner and despite the connection I had with my ex, I know that he is the one that I want to marry…Thank you for this article! It truly explained so much!

  • Anne

    Is it possible to be with your life partner for so many years, and meet your soulmate? Bearing in mind that you are deeply in love with your life partner, married, and have kids.

    • yes, you can meet soulmates at any time on your life journey.

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  • dana

    Hmmm… there are so many concrete & universal statements in this article about something that is a uniquely individual experience.The perspective is not as spiritually open as I would like to hear. I think it has good intentions, but becomes a bit zealous & righteous with the labeling of distinctly what is and what isn’t.

    • yes you are right, it does impose labels to some degree however, that is not my intention with the article. i just hope people can take away a better understanding of soul mates and that they are really there for conscious and soul evolution, not necessarily a fairytale romance 🙂

  • Acai

    I wish people would stop making these sites about soulmates. I disagree with this. How can they claim to know what your soulmate is? I KNOW what my intuition etc told me when I met mine, and I KNOW that the things websites like this say is not true.
    Please stop believing you can tell other people about their soulmate and spiritual relationships. Each person has to figure it out and when they come to sites like this they get confused and fail to learn the lessons.
    A soulmate is just that – soul mate – a mate that is your perfect match. I also think there’s only one, and there are a number of opportunities to come together when the two people are both ready. They also meet at other times to provoke this ‘awakening’ and kick start lessons etc.
    I’m fed up of sites like this confusing people.

    • Sylqué

      Agreed, well mostly. The idea that there is only one seems almost as prescriptive as the post. I don’t know if I agree with that in particular.

      • Acai

        Yes, thanks.

        Well I find it difficult to believe that there could be more than one. If a soulmate is someone who fits your personality so perfectly, and there is more than one, then there must be
        multiple people who have almost exactly the same personality, and that is bizarre if we are all unique.

        I think that people like to believe there’s more than one because they don’t get it together with theirs, or think their chances of finding them are too remote, and don’t
        want to accept that, so say ‘well there’s more than one’ to make themselves feel better.
        With the one, when the two are ready and the time is right, it’ll happen. Soulmates can’t be made, they already are.

        • Sylqué

          That’s an interesting idea. But what if you believe you have in fact encountered 2 soulmates, as I was recently told.
          IJS *shrugs* it seems wrong somehow to determine another’s possibilities.

          • Acai

            Of course, no-one can tell someone else what has happened to them, that was my original point. But did YOU know that they were both your soulmates, or did someone else tell you they were?
            I have encountered people from previous life who I had strong connection to, but they weren’t a soulmate. Only one of those I’ve met.

          • Sylqué

            I am not talking about myself, I meant a friend said they had met 2 of their soulmates.

          • Acai

            Then we cannot know.

            It seems to be a love/hate relationship as well. And unique. Our reactions to each other are interesting. It would be difficult to be married. Definately all-consuming. Even just talking to each other is difficult because the connection is like a magnet – repells and pulls in equal force stronger than all of life. Seems to be a catalyst for other change.

    • Keith O’Brien

      I find it interesting that you bash the author for saying what she believes to be true…but then you turn around and state your opinion as fact. Surely you must be open to other people disagreeing with your opinions.

      For me, I found a lot of value in this article. Like any teaching, take what you want from it and leave the rest.

      I have always found the idea of 1 soul mate as odd. On a planet of this size, with this many languages and this many cultures…to think there is one person who is the perfect fit for you seems…well…romantic yet not likely…and also a bit cruel, in my opinion.

      You also seem to use soul and personality as interchangeable. You first say a soul mate matches your soul…then you say it’s a perfect personality match. I don’t see our soul as the same as our personality.

      I am super happy you found yours though…

      • Acai

        A soulmate is a personality match. I didn’t say anything else. I never stated my opinion AS TRUTH. I just stated my opinion. You clearly have a problem with that.

        Are you saying that I can’t respond to someone who disagrees with what I said? You disagree with me, fine. Why are you so defensive?

        I don’t need you to be super happy for me, thanks.

        • Keith O’Brien

          LOL. I am not being defensive at all. I just found your comment funny because you did exactly what you were upset about the author doing. I found it ironic.

          “and I KNOW that the things websites like this say is not true.”

          It’s cool. I’m not here to pick a fight…I’m still happy for you.

    • ajprajay nath

      Prior searching/finding Soulmate,we must realise what actually a Soul is? Every creatures are having souls! So we all creatures are soulmates originally. But its our character patterns, diversity of individual interests etc which wraps the original souls to make us feel differently that we all are having different soul. So searching so called soulmate here seems to mean searching your setup in just opposite gender which may sometime happen to somebody. But in that case too the union may not last long because of radical change of character traits upon the passage of time!….Good luck!

      • Acai

        ajprajay, yes I agree that first people must realize what they are, find themselves. And really, not superficially. I think it goes deeper, though, than character traits and patterns. I think there’s something essentially unchanging deep inside that is as old as time. And I think a soulmate is part of that. That’s why it’s such a profound experience when meeting them, because it goes deeper than anyone knew, and because it awakens a part of yourself that knows love properly, not conditioned, and knows and recognizes what it itself is. Whether that relationship will manifest, or be lasting, is obviously completely dependent on the individuals involved.
        I think soul incarnates and takes on experiences and develops patterns and traits, which shape it and help it develop in a myriad of unendingly diverse ways. I also think there is a strong guiding principle, whether you call it god or something else, which leads the soul into certain experiences, to encourage it to develop in certain ways.

        • ajprajay nath

          Acai ,first of all my best wishes are with you that in the course of time you find your soulmate. And if you have already got then,hearty congratulations! Okay ,if we see grossly there seems to be more nos of matchings might happen to an individual if we search in gross way. The no decreases if we see our matching more finer way and it becomes few in most finer way and soon becomes just one if we seeks it in extra most finer way! And it might become nil if we see it finer most finer way. That is the trajedy! Our seekings push us to aloneness!(not loneliness). At first it looks that that being alone is a trajedy…. But it is beautiful! We came alone to this earth ,we live alone in this planet,and will leave alone! Aloneness is the truth,the moment you accept it you will see its beauty. But to make it happen you have to keep on searching your 100% match,not a percent less. I am talking here about aloneness not loneliness, loneliness is dull,but being fully alone is a joy! Loneliness compels you to go for weekend tour but aloneness keeps you fress forever. Relationship such as wife,friends,enemy,in all form just make us think different ways which always hallucinate us . But we are alone if we seek our matching in finest way. And aloneness is joy!!!!

          • Acai

            We are in agreement, ajprajay. Instead of trying to seek a partner, it’s better to find yourself, your satisfaction with yourself and who you are. When people are ready, if the time is right, they may meet their soulmate. But sometimes people need to experience relationships to get there, to be ready, they need to live out experiences, and that’s fine. But people should not say someone is a soulmate just because they feel connected to them etc, because that trivializes that most important thing.

            I don’t know if we are supposed to be with our soulmate in life. I only know my own experience and of course I don’t know how it ends up! I do know that after seeing that kind of love, other connections no matter how strong I am aware are based on personality, and it doesn’t feel like enough compared to that soulmate connection that seemed to be based on something almost like god, the soul itself.
            I do think that we have to live our own lives and accept ourselves first no matter what. That’s really all we can do.

          • ajprajay nath

            Well,dear! I never tell you that one should not search soulmate. Searching/seeking is very important just to know its futility. One thing if you are searching something, search it whole heartedly, people always act as if they are searching wholeheartedly but most of the times they compromise. They though see dissimillerties between a relation they simply keep a blind eye just to continue relationship, they fear society, they fear god,they fear about the future of their child’s. I am not here to console or encourage anybody better I love destroying your defence,because pseudo defence always meant to be fallen. Why you are in agreement? Because you are selfish(there is nothing wrong to be selfish, its an part of life journey, but not being aware of it. Its a pity!) See there are only two option in life, just to go for ultimate truth of to live in this world by making innumourous compromises. People live here with blind eyes,with loss of lims, with diseases because they compromise. They are conditioned thinking that it is impossible! But everything possible but never compromise! Its easy to advice (ha..ha,.ha…,like me!)but hard to follow…that is why I never advice in reality..I just love disturbing people (like osho,though we are all different, but get grossly we must match somewhere. You have wrote that instead of seeking partners first ,we should/must find ourselves. But you know the very precursor of finding yourself is to find your partner first because once you will feel that there is no 100% match then only you will search yourself. I/you can be part of this process but cannot direct/steer it bbut we must try…to know how to loose after 100% try and regain it ….ha..ha ..ha..yes you can control your destiny, your future,and everything ..even this univetse.,,but not at ease…..good luck!

          • Acai

            Whatever. I am not disturbed by anything you said, except the insinuation that I am. Of course people must find themselves before partnering. How can you partner if you don’t know yourself?
            I don’t understand all of your comments because they are contradictory.

            Please don’t presume to tell me what I am or what I do. You’ve no idea.
            Thanks.

          • ajprajay nath

            Okay.. I do love you ad you are, you are right ,be confident ,go ahead umtil you rediscover yourself!

          • ajprajay nath

            Contradiction is better than stupid conclusion, because contradiction means you are still searching. Only contradictions can make you puzzled and once you get puzzled you are forced to leave that orbit and jump to another orbit without following any rule(so called quantum mechanics, God never play any dice,Albert Einstein).. Conclusions means you ate dead… Remember aloneness is not a conclusion, it is a result, conclusion is made by brain, and a result is not a brainwork rather it’s a truth!!!

          • ajprajay nath

            I love your statement that people must find themself before partnering. Why do you partner somebody? Because you feel yourself incomplete? Or you want betterment through a union? If you feel incomplete,then you must admit that you are insufficient to stand alone. It’s a pity,if the case is for betterment, what betterment? Of you? Or of human beings? If it’s for you,then I have no say,but if for human being, than just look for combinations,not for specific combination!!!

          • Acai

            If it wasn’t a specific combination, it would be meaningless. People want that union because it means something deeper – which is what this topic is about, the soulmate.

            I do not want to better myself with someone else. I said a person should find themselves FIRST. Being with another person in a partnership isn’t about bettering yourself, it isn’t selfish, it isn’t about what it can do for me. At least, not with normal people. The ones who make connections just because, who know that humans have value within themselves, not what they do for others.
            People make connections because that’s what humans do. They like connections, company, fun, intimacy…you know?!

          • ajprajay nath

            You don’t want to better yourself! Well than why are you searching soumate.. Are not your so called soul is asking for a mate? Does not asking means incomplete? Does not it means that you are selfish? Because in order to find yourself complete, you are searching your better half(?). Don’t you think there are millions of people who ate missing their soulmate knowingly or unknowingly! And you come out smart and and searching your soulmate! Are not you selfish? It is better to be dull to share then to be that smart to find something which apparently may satishfy you.but wait n see!

          • ajprajay nath

            Well Acai,you win,I lose!…it is truth.. Losing is the truth. To win automatically we have to lose…

          • ajprajay nath

            Normal people!!! Do you thraw away all abnormal people out of water? This life is not complete simply with normal peoples ,it requires abnormal peoples too! Just to show you that that you are super abnormal because if needs be you can claim to be normal just ignorong your own brother/sisters as they seems to be abnormal?

          • Sephina Torruellas

            If you do not grow and learn with people then the relationship is meaningless. Change isn’t always bad. You can learn yourself as is and when you find someone you learn yourself with them. There will be more sides to you when you’re with a partner.

    • Sephina Torruellas

      I’ve had a few soul mates. One was in the form of a best friend and one now who is my partner. You can have more then one soul mate. Mates can always mean friends. It just means a partnership.

  • Ken Bouchard

    I am Ken i am from United Kingdom, i want to share a testimony with everyone about how DR. Agumagu brought Joy into my life, me and my boyfriend have been dating for three years and we were living happily together and also planning to get married, one faithful mourning we went for check up because our wedding is very close and the doctor said i am HIV positive and my boyfriend is HIV negative because of this my boyfriend ask me to live his house and cancelled the wedding and said he can’t get married to someone who is HIV positive. i was very sad to know that i had HIV diseases and also my wedding was cancelled and i love my boyfriend so much that i will never let anything to break us apart, so i shared my problem with my mother and she told me never to worry and she help me to contact this great spell caster DR. Agumagu and he told me not to worry that my problem is too small and easy for him to solve, and gave me some instructions to follow which i followed accordingly, and he told me that he will help me cure my HIV diseases and help me bring back my Love within 5days if i follow the instruction he will give to me accordingly, after he has finish casting the spell for me he ask me to go for a check up in the hospital to confirm my HIV status and when i got to the same hospital which i was tested HIV positive i was tested negative and i was so surprise to see that i no longer have HIV diseases and i went and testify to him and he told me that in 2days time that my boyfriend will come looking for me again, 2days latter i was with my mom and my little brother in the rest room when we had a knock on the door and when i open the door i was surprise to see my boyfriends kneeling down in front of my mom and my little brother asking me to forgive him and ask me to marry him again. and today we are legally married all thanks and praise goes to the great spell caster DR. Agumagu for helping me to cure my HIV and also helping me to bring back my boyfriend. YOU CAN CONTACT HIM TODAY FOR HIS ASSISTANCE TO HELP YOU WITH HIS EMAIL: agumaguspelltemple@outlook.com or agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com

  • Kaylee Cole

    For me it’s all the things of Life Partner and some of the soulmate stuff. But I just felt it

    • glad you resonated with it!

  • Gabriela Fonseca

    I’ve only felt the soulmate connection with two beings in all my life and one of them was a cat. :'(

    • Trust in the Divine timing! In the mean time, here is a quote from Eckhart Tolle that you may like – “I have lived with many zen masters, all of them cats.”

      • Gabriela Fonseca

        Thank you so much.

  • Doris Chaumont Peixoto

    Thank you so much Tanaaz! This article is so informative! I shared the link to this great article on my Esoteric Psychic Facebook page!

    • glad you enjoyed! Your facebook page sounds great, I will definitely check it out.

  • torsha

    I met my soulmate about 6 months ago, he was through a dating site but we eventually became restless as if we were magnetized towards each other and now after two months he broke up just without meeting i dont know what he is though ,he is a cusp between twin flame and soulmate , i hardly could get him out of my mind , i dont know anything , pls help

  • DMitri Elbert

    Can a person have a soulmate, such as a friend of many years and life partner as in marriage during the same time?

  • Isha

    Thank you for such wonderful article! I can relate to this.I have recently started knowing more about spiritual science and I can say that I have met my soulmate .
    I met him couple of years ago ,that time both of us were not possessing self awareness but we challenged each other every possible way,we admired each other and felt strong and deepest connection with each other,went through ups-down,love-hate but couldn’t see getting us apart.We were and still are physically attracted to each other.The sad thing is we are not able to form any kind of relation,not even friendship.The biggest reason is he is married ,we tried figuring this out but he is unable to talk to me ,something scares him while approaching me( he has approached another woman since he is unhappy in marriage) but to see me going out of his life scares him more.We both have discomfort forming this relation.

    For me this is getting complicated as I cant date anyone else,he is always there in back of my mind.(We don’t meet each other) He has now realized that other woman is not the one for him so he told her that.

    We both are back to square one here.I feel sometimes I am homewrecker or what .I don’t understand how to see this whole thing?We are definitely growing higher level though.

  • Megan Brett

    I married my life partner last october… I think i just found my soulmate. I’m so conflicted.

    • You can still go through the soul journey with your soulmate. While it may present different challenges as you are married, there is no reason why you still cant experience the journey

    • I just did to!! Really dont know what to do!!

  • diannep

    ..sometimes, the attraction is enough to get us through to the other side of love where we have learned to value, trust, respect our partner and most importantly allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
    I think soul mate relationships are internal to one or the other whereas, our day by day lives require a mate who shares the same wants such as children, lifestyle meaning life partner.

  • duke smith

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  • moonlight

    I feel that I met my soulmate at a very young age, we were so young in fact that the only memory I have as when we first met was an immediate connection. I grew up beside him, in fact we are only ten days apart. We stay friend all through out k-12 and even hung out just us two alone through college. We have never crossed the line more than friends. Everyone who knew us at a younger age knew that I felt deeply for him, and that there was an obvious connection between us. He has been now dating the same woman for over 5 yrs and I have been dating someone from about 4. It is odd, because we are normally single or with someone around the same periods of time. A few yrs back we randomly met up after exchanging a few text messages and caught up with each others lives. the amount of energy was overwhelming and intense, I knew he felt it, we both did but since we are in a loyal relationship we never experienced not even a kiss. Sometimes i feel I compare this type of connection I have with him over my life partner.. I know I love my life partner, in fact I think there are times that he needs me more than i need him, or vice versa. I feel like I need to verbally communicate with him about things rather than him just knowing and it can be so frustrating. I feel that i have this awakening emerging in my life and he isnt on the same level. It goes through waves, sometimes he is and sometimes he isnt. I dont know if I should continue with this person, but I know as of right now I couldnt be with my souldmate because he has never acted on our connection or love in a physical level. It can be extremely confusing at times and I think that I am the only one feeling this way. And I wonder if he feels this way too. He now lives across the country with his life partner.. sometimes I wonder if he left to try to distance himself from me, knowing that we could never be together? . .

  • Cassie

    I think… I may have found both… at the same time, but not in the same person. And it is terrifying for me because they are both men. Is that semi normal?

  • sairamteja vedantam

    wonderful 🙂

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  • Mandy Rodgers-Dodson

    My soul mate is my life partner!! I am sure someone will disagree with me but BOTH describe us PERFECTLY. Our Friends & Family always say GOD made us to be together <3

  • I really dont know what to do. I am married to my lifepartner. But we cannot connet on a deeper level, but we are great toghether. Passion is not there. But all the stabiliy, lova and trust. Now I just met my soulmate. What the hell do I do?? Me are like magnets, and I just want to be with him. What is the meaning of it? Please help…

    • Cheyenne Dane

      the same has happened to me. it has been several months of lots of emotion- jealousy, on my partner’s part- feeling very torn on my part. i understand now that i met my soul mate because i was ready to come to a new awareness– this didn’t happen without much turmoil and a complete renovation in my life partner relationship- but i feel that my life partner and i have arrived into a realm that is as deep as the connection i have with my soul mate. i abstained from physical contact with my soul mate because i saw the damage it would do to my life partner- and -as a gentle soul- i could not do that. i could not even take it underground. it has been very hard- but the results are very good- follow your heart- our hearts contain not only our desires, but the understanding of how we affect each other- do no harm- let it unfold- find your stillness.

      • But how do you know that you are not ment to be with your soulmate? That we are suppose to move on?

    • Carolina V

      I’m in the same situation! It’s so hard once you’ve been exposed to the depth of connection with your soul mate, it just makes your connection with your life partner just feel less, even though they’re the one you choose. My soul mate is mighily similar to me and we’d make a bad life choice being together, I think. Me and my LP work amazingly together to get the best out of life, just hard to love them as deeply once you experience that deep-to-deep connection with your soul mate. I wish I could just trial it out with my SM but 10 years of marriage is not a thing to test on.

  • Sephina Torruellas

    I disagree with this article. Soul mates don’t always leave. They can leave but that’s not always true. My Soul mate and life partner or for better words my true love is one and the same. There is no leaving. Sometimes you don’t meet your true love or a soul mate. Sometimes you have many. I am very lucky to have had a few. But a soul mate is someone who’s you in a different body. It is your yin to your yang and yet they are different. They get you because essentially they are you.

  • Pearl

    Soulmate is just one time.
    Besides loving each other, you also think alike talk the same time without any of you planning it. Is some one who is madly in love with you, who will do anything for you and who will show you ever day of your life how wonderful is to be alive enjoying everything. Your soulmate is something the you know the you can’t never see your self with anyone else no matter what. Soulmate is when you look into each other eyes close eye to eye but you see past your eye, is like your looking into each other soul. Is pure soul mate love. At least this is how me and my love see it. I guess everyone has different definition for soulmate but there is only one that’s true.

  • Mohemed Izat

    this is the most retarded disgusting article ever!!! who the hell are you Tanaaz to say what is a true soulmate and their purpose is?? your shitty propaganda that you tell yourself and other people to make yourself feel better by defining soulmates as not life partners is sickening!!

  • Kaylee Cole

    He’s my life partner but I still can’t determine if he’s my soulmate too or not. They seem similar but attraction has been part of it, love, trust, respect and we have such a great, special bond and we’ve always gotten along so well. We’re even exes cuz we lost contact and every time we have contact it feels so nice and makes me happy and we still get along really well.

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    my name is Micheal

    I hate to say this i have to cos even if it feels wrong its something i had to do.Some people say if a door closes another opens but i say that is just a way of dealing with the pain we feel cos really if we loss something or someone so dear, we can never really get a replacement cos nothing will ever seem to fit.Well that was just how i felt when my wife left eleven years old marriage with my beautiful kids. It was all my fault.I made our marriage almost come to an end but am happy because it didn’t, all thinks to DR EBOSELE a magic guy or rather spell caster as most people call it online.Its amazing how one mistake can take away all you have worked hard for in just a blink.Just a moment of weakness that made me cheat on my wife, would have been the end of all my happiness and my family.Most people reading this may think a guy cheats on his wife and does all he can not to loss her.I know what come to the mind first is, if he really loved her as he claim why cheat in the first place? Honestly for experience you just don’t make up your mind to want to be unfaithful to your other half wife or girlfriend, it just happens like something or lets say some kind of impulse just take control and make you do even when at that moment you know you gonna regret it forever.This is how best i can explain it but i know one thing after i did it, i realized how much i loved my wife and at the same time how much i betrayed her. It didn’t stay hidden for so long she found out and she lost it all i saw it clearly she still loved me so much cos in her eyes all i could see was deep pain and a thick cut in her heart even when she kicked me out and wanted a divorce.I love this woman with all my heart and was really not going to let go.As i said i asked a spell caster DR EBOSELE to help me restore my marriage and my life cos really he was my last option to happiness again. His spell made the subconscious of her that always loved me selflessly surface again as he explained what ever he did help a lot as other article i read about him said, he only asks for materials for the spell casting and if it may arise extra money to ship the spell package to you. He is honest and trustworthy and reliable. IF you may contact do it with this email dreboseletempleofgrace@hotmail.com

  • Sarah p Weston

    MY almost gratitude goes to Dr Emuan for bring back my lover.my husband dumped me for another woman but by the grace of God we are now back with the help of Dr Emuan .I contacted Dremuansolution@gmail. com concerning my ex husband and he guaranteed me of 3 days to my greatest surprise my husband came back to me in the third day i want to say a very big thank you.if you are in any kind of problem about your relationship you can contact him on; Dremuansolution@gmail. com he will put a smile on your face.

  • angel gonzalez

    Hello guys I need so help in understanding something

  • angel gonzalez

    I meet a guy and instantly we both had a very strong connection even before meeting and once we meet and went on our date the attraction was just as strong as when we started to just talking and over a months time we were in sync with our feelings n thoughts we both feel the same in what we wanted and how we felt with each other and often enough if I voiced something I was feeling he would tell me he felt that also or if he voiced a feeling n a thought I’d be feeling the same so never the less we had a strong bond… Sadly the last thing he told me was I’m falling for you as I also felt he was and said I really like you and that was the last time I heard from him. I have dated often having a few long lasting relationships but this one wasn’t a relationship it was something more something I had not experienced even with my 8+ year one. What does this mean aside from him just not being there anymore. To me we had something strong and special just not sure he was able to handle what he was feeling or its me telling my self that’s what it is 🙁

  • RLG

    I’m so glad I found this interpretation. I found my soul-mate and then just 6 months later I found my life partner. I truly love two people in different ways. My life partner is much more fulfilling & healthy and I know to be the best/happier choice (the choice I made). I have been feeling guilty and confused about missing my soul-mate.

    Prior to reading this I had the interpretation that we have more than one ‘soul-mate’, the human mind is so complex that it seems perfectly reasonable for more than one person to be able connect with another on a deeper level.

    My ~6 month relationship with my soulmate was a huge short-sweet-sad emotional roller coaster, it awakened my soul to a new level I never thought possible and for that he will always have a place in my heart. We taught each other much about life, family and love and despite the pain caused I know he is taking positive steps with his life already.

    Eventually I hope enough time shall pass and I can re-kindle a friendship with this person.

    Now, I am happy with my life partner, meeting this person has changed my world for the better, and I am excited for this journey to continue.

    Thankyou for this article.

  • Rose Johnson

    The way the article reads, it seem as though you are each other’s soulmate (A is B’s soulmate and B is A’s soulmate). I’m curious if someone can be your soulmate without you being their soulmate. IS this possible?

    • I feel soulmates are soulmates on both sides, not just on one side. 🙂

  • jose

    i am kelly jose by name I have a few testimony to share with you all about myself, I was in a relationship with this guy and for 3years and we were about getting married when we both have misunderstanding with each other and he ask me for a divorce and we both agreed and after 4months I head that he was having an affair with one of my closest friend and I was very upset and worried so a friend of my advice me and told me if I still love my ex and if I really want to have him back so I told her yes, and she ask me to contact Dr. kosie the spell caster and I did although I never believe on spell so he gave me something when he was casting the spell and ask me to say my wishes on it and after the casting of the spell a receive a phone call from my ex and was ask me at which I did and now we are back together again I’m so happy and I wish not to ever have this mistake again in my life. I will also advice anyone with this kind of issue to contact him for help he is really nice on phone and always there to answer you question giving you the good advice that you need. his email is drkosiepowerfulltemple@gmail.com

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  • cosmic_rainbows

    Thank you so much for writing this. I have just gone through a very tough and emotional night where I am still trying to make sense of what just happened and I’m starting to understand. My soulmate just broke off our long distance relationship of about 2 years to marry for tradition and stability. We both had very intense feelings for each other since the day we met, made wonderful memories together, but then I had to move back home to a different state to follow my heart and go back to school. Reading this has put so many things into perspective for me and finally put some peace of mind and ease in my heart. He is also wanting to still be friends, and I am so glad for that! 🙂

    Maribel

  • The Real Alicia Kali (Facebook

    Disagree. What you are outlining here is a kinship. NOT a soulmate. Too bad. Disappointing article that is so clearly tinged with a non-spiritual tinge of logic – stating so plainly that one should marry a life partner and not a soul mate. A true soul mate cannot be anything but a life partner. Kinships are for leaning and evolution of self. This article seems to outline shortcomings in your own life experience rather than any true understanding. I am sorry you have only had kinships but their purpose is to prepare you for your soul mate. Please don’t give up and PLEASE stop selling this “settling” for a life partner ideology to others – its… Well… It’s SHIT. <3 AK Don't Just Be Good At It- Be GOOD http://www.AliciaKali.com

  • Nick the Enforcer

    This whole “soul mate” thing is an over used cliché…. I run into teens and millennial’s who say, ‘this is so ‘n so she/he is my soul mate.’ …no its just hormonal bonding and lust…get married and go thru the ups ‘n downs of everyday life, bills, parenting and such b/c that heat you feel wears off mostly b/c you are both too fuk’n tired with the daily grind. Then they give me that stupid clueless look, we were all 20-somethings at one point and thought we would change the world. Now I just want to make it thru the week and have something not break or the kids needing something they lost or grew out of.
    I’ve been with the same woman for 28 years, married for 22 of those years…we both don’t buy into the SM thing but we would say we are devoted life partners. Have two great kids and damn if her ass doen’t still get me hot. I say that we are not planning on having more kids but we still like to practice….Mmeow!
    You can agree with me or not and that’s ok, everyone’s journey is unique but after nearly three decades I think I know that a broken clock is right twice a day! 🙂

  • SusieQ

    I met a man and in the moment I met them something said to me there you are. What does this mean? Who is this person to me?

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  • Ethnic Girl Travels

    Great article! I had never looked into the concept of soul mates before. Its beautiful the way you summed it up. I feel many people struggle with wanting one at one time and another at another and it can often lead to dissatisfaction in marriages

  • Carolina V

    I didn’t believe in soul mates until I bumped into mine. I knew the second I saw him when something leaped in me saying “There you are! I’ve been looking for you my whole life”. We both felt the same, even though we only spent 2-hours together. Could even feel physical in-sync vibrations between us. He’s 20 years older than me, lives 5000 miles away, and I’ve been married to my life partner for 10yrs, who’s amazing, but it’s been hard because since I met my soul mate my life has completely turned upside down since seeing my true and higher self in my soul mate in just one glance. We stay in touch a little but I’ve often thought of cutting it off because of the intensity. At the same time, to disconnect from him would make me feel very alone in the world now. Thanks for helping me define these things. Everything is just as you say here for me.

    • Thanks for sharing your story Carolina. I am glad the article resonated for you.

  • Joe De Wit

    I met my soulmate 33 years ago and as you exactly described parted because of extreme emotional challenges we were unable to cope, let alone deal with at a late teen age.
    We only just got back together as friends friend but the same experience took place.
    It was very intense but also spiritually rewarding because we both grew in areas were we both incapable to grow in at a young age.
    However the whole experience was so intense and deep that we parted again but this time alot richer and deeper.

  • Joe De Wit

    I met a girl 33 years ago who i connected with like never before or since.
    It was like finding that part of myself that had always been missing.
    We were very close and compatible
    She had however massive family problems both from her mothers past as well as her farthers and was often depressed.
    I was 19 and could’nt handle all these problems, so called it of .
    Straight away i knew i had made a mistake but was unable to reconnect.
    It was 32 years later that i found her again and the connection was instand and even stronger than before.
    This time a i was able to help her with still the same unresolved family problems and she was able to also help me to grow in sertain

  • Joe De Wit

    I know that it’s all a beatifull story but to me it’s extremely painfull, like i found and lost a part of myself twice.
    How can i alleviate this pain.

  • Jasmin Shalom Barone

    I am married to my life partner and my soul mate I have no wavering or doubt.

    But unfortunately for me, he finds his soulmating in several people, both men and women. To him a souls mate is not a single person that might exsit. It is any person who he deeply connects with in all the ways listed and possibly more ways. I don’t know if those connections can ever fade, even when they are not together.

    I appreciate this break down. But it does show me very clearly how I am in a one sided soul relationship with my life partner.

    Now, how to figure out how to capture my life partners love, attention and direction in the way he captures mine….

    • Joe De Wit

      Hi jasmin
      I believe by your expression that you are truly committed to your life partner but get the feeling he might be crossing relationship boundaries, which could be unhealthy.
      Have you talked about how you perceive his soulmate connections.

  • y3shuA imMANu3l

    I like this song “make a stand”

  • luggenbug

    Or maybe it’s all just New Age-BS! Life is full of coincidences and we all meet people everyday; some we like, some we don’t. Nothing is planned, because by coincidences, you can learn and grow. If something is planned, nothing can be learned, and it’s also like cheating on an exam! No relative or partner is a soulmate because soulmates do not exist! We don’t choose our family, parner, job, etc. We only choose to be reborn again….the rest is up to coincidences!