Why You Don’t Always Have to be Positive

why you dont always have to be positive

One of the first things that most of us learn on our spiritual journey is that our thoughts create our reality.

This piece of valuable Universal wisdom then leads the way to ensuring that our thoughts, words and actions are all positive in order to return us with positive results.

While there is nothing wrong with this philosophy, often we can get so caught up in thinking and being positive that we forget our truth.

Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon and the truth- Buddha

Being truthful to yourself is more important than being positive. Being yourself is more important than being positive. 

Don’t get me wrong, being positive definitely has its benefits, but sometimes we can fall into the trap of denying how we really feel and masking it up with positive thoughts just because it’s the “right” thing to do.

Don’t be afraid of your negative thoughts, because really every thought, word and action is here to guide and help us to a higher state of consciousness. It is only in our mind that we label a thought as being either good or bad.

Instead of masking a negative thought, accept it, feel it and allow it to pass. Know that it is here to guide you to a better place, know that this thought can be shifted with truth and love.


To calm your mind, replace your negative thought with an affirmation of understanding rather than denial. For example, instead of saying “I have lots and lots of money”– even though you know your bank account is near empty, try- “I trust that all my needs will be met.”

Of course, there is nothing wrong with indulging in the idea that you do have lots and lots of money however, in those moments where you feel yourself getting emotional about the lack of money in your account, instead of masking it, accept it and then turn it into potential.

It is far more powerful to speak your truth, accept it and bring understanding to it than being “positive.” Be true to you, because the truth will always set you free.

Examples of affirmations that you can use:

– “I trust that the perfect answer or solution will come at the perfect time”

– “I am just doing the best that I can and I am bringing love and appreciation to that.”

– “I accept my body and know that self- love heals all wounds.”

– “I am angry and that is ok, I allow myself to feel this anger and then let it go.”

– “I must trust the decisions that I have made and look towards a place of forgiveness and understanding.”

There are many ways to calm a negative energy without suppressing or fighting it. You recognize it, you smile to it, and you invite something nicer to come up and replace it….-Thich Nhat Hanh

About the author

Tanaaz

Creator of Forever Conscious and other things.

  • My favorite part is: “Being truthful to yourself is more important than being positive. Being yourself is more important than being positive. “

  • Thanks Brian, yes they are powerful words!