As Venus the planet of love continues through her retrograde cycle, there is no better time for clearing out and rebalancing the heart chakra.
The heart chakra rules compassion, generosity, trust, openness, self love and also romantic love.
With Venus retrograde, chances are issues in these areas may have been creeping into your life, reminding you that they need addressing or clearing.
Because the heart chakra is also the center of your energy system, these issues may have been weighing on other areas of your life and perhaps you have even noticed a discourse between needing, wanting and receiving.
As the center of your energy system, the heart chakra really acts as a mediator between your lower and higher chakras.
The lower or earth based chakras are often about groundedness, security, needs and wants, whereas your higher chakras are more about receiving, self love and the connection to spirit.
Perhaps since Venus has been retrograde you may have been feeling a pull between these two areas of your life and perhaps you have felt off balance with your needs and desires and actually receiving them.
Aside from being the keeper of energy, the heart chakra is also where we connect to our source or our soul. From this place we receive our life force, our zest, our passions and our sense of balance and peace.
A lot of the time we can loose this connection, especially as we enter into some of the heavy lessons that Venus may be trying to stir within us as she moves retrograde.
When your heart chakra is out of balance it usually manifests as:
- Being emotionally closed off or feeling the need to push others away
- Inability to receive abundance, support or help from others
- Being overly critical of yourself and others
- Blaming others or feeling a sense of superiority
- Pushing away others out of fear of rejection or being hurt
- Being out of touch with your emotional state of mind
- Losing trust in the state of humanity and the world
- Feeling withdrawn or isolated from others
- Feeling out of touch with your passions or life
- Self-hatred or hatred for others
- Feeling overrun with fears and anxiety
- Holding on out of fear of loss or being alone
If any of these are resonating with you, chances are you are in need of a re-balance to your heart chakra and a clearing out of old, stagnant energy.
The good news is that you have the power and the innate knowledge to heal your heart charka yourself. Here’s how:
1. Attend To Your Needs
What do you truly desire for yourself? Sometimes it can be so easy to go along with what others want or fall into patterns of peer pressure. Really take the time to ask yourself what it is that you truly want and start to become firmer in your intentions.
Sit down with a pen and paper and write down a few answers to the following questions- “What do I really want for my life?” and “What is important for me today?” Review your answers and try to create more of what you want in your life starting now.
You may also want to use the following affirmation:
“All of my needs are being taken care of by the Divine Universe. I trust this open myself to the flow of the Universe, knowing that my needs are always being met in perfect timing.”
2. Release Blame
Our heart chakra can become blocked when we start projecting our emotions onto others instead of looking within.
Everything that happens to you is a reflection of your own inner state so there is no need to pass blame. No matter what you feel a victim to, releasing blame allows you to take your power back and brings your emotions and a solution into your control.
You have no control over what others do or the events around you, the only thing you can control is your internal state. Remembering this allows you to release the blame and take responsibility for your own energy.
Here is an affirmation that may support you:
“I release my burdens, my blame and my victim mindset and I understand that everything in this life has a higher purpose to teach me. Through releasing blame I take my power back and understand that I am a powerful manifestor and co-creator of my destiny.”
3. Acceptance and Forgiveness
When you bring acceptance to a situation you automatically introduce a space for forgiveness. Forgiveness is a powerful healing tool that can really help to open your heart chakra and to mend traumas from your past.
No matter how bad the situation, bringing acceptance allows you to really deal with your thoughts and emotions and brings any arising issues to the surface. Through acceptance you can also start to work through any stagnant emotions.
Remember, forgiving is not about saying that what happened was ok, it is about accepting what happened and only through acceptance can you truly heal.
How does it change your outlook to simply accept what is? How does your internal dialogue or your thoughts about the situation change when you just accept?
4. Look into the Mirror
Every soul lesson in this life can all be traced back to learning how to love yourself. When you truly love yourself you step into a higher frequency where miracles, destiny and the Divine all flow.
To really reach this place you have to be able to look into the mirror on a daily basis and tell yourself- “I love you”.
Place your hand over your heart, look deep into your eyes as you gaze in the mirror and repeat- “I love you”. Repeat it till you feel it and then repeat it some more. Pay attention to what emotions or resistance arises as you do this exercise.
This powerful practice instantly helps to raise your vibration and opens your heart chakra.
5. Respond with Compassion
When you remember that everyone is just doing their best with what they know, it allows you to bring in a sense of compassion and understanding. By no means do you want to be a doormat, but at the same time bringing compassion into the situation can really allow you to see things from a different viewpoint.
Ask yourself is there a way you can be kinder? Is there a way you can bring some light and loving energy into your life or into the situation? There is always room for love, there is always room for compassion, sometimes you just need to work to put it there.
Your heart chakra runs on Love, so by providing it with more loving thoughts, words and deeds you can truly fire it back into balance.
6. Pink Flowers and Rose Quartz
Pink and green are the colours of the heart chakra and flowers are the hearts of Mother Earth. By bringing some pink flowers into your life you can start surrounding yourself in a more positive environment for healing. You can also make a bath filled with pink rose petals and other flowers to help evoke healing.
Rose Quartz is also a powerful stone for healing the heart chakra as it helps to rebalance and refocus your energy.
Place your Rose quartz crystal over your heart while meditating or wear a pendant close to your chest in order to align with the vibration of the gemstone.
7. Heart Chakra Ritual & Meditation
This ritual is a great exercise if you are looking to deeply heal and open your heart charka.
You will need: a pink or white candle, a piece of rose quartz, a bowl of water, a pink or red flower and/or rose essential oil and a pen and paper.
1.) Find a quiet space where you absolutely cannot be disturbed.
2.) Take a few deep breaths in and out in order to relax your mind.
3.) Placing your hand over your heart breathe here deeply for a moment until your thoughts settle.
4.) Take your pen and paper and write down your intention for your ritual, for example: “I intend to clear and release any blockages from my heart chakra caused by my fear of not being loved.”
5.) Fold the piece of paper and place it under your piece of rose quartz.
6.) Light your candle and take three deep breaths, allowing your intention to sink in (you may also want to repeat your attention aloud or to yourself.)
7.) When you feel ready, begin my reciting the following affirmation (please feel free to tailor it for your own situation or feelings)-
“I release all of the blocks surrounding my heart and my energy moving forward. With every breath I release the burdens that my heart has had to carry. With every passing moment, my breath will carry away the fear, pain and stagnant energy that surrounds my heart. These that no longer serve me will be carried up to the heavens where they will be released. Anything that I no longer need will be released into the heavens in order to be purged and released.”
8.) Take a few deep breaths imagining all your fears, burdens and pains being taken away into the heavens.
9.) When you feel ready, begin reciting the following affirmation:
“Now that the heavens have accepted and taken away my burdens I feel an openness, a lightness and a trust. I allow love back into my life, I allow compassion back into my life, I allow myself to trust and know that I am being supported and carried by mother Divine. I love myself, I love all those around me and I know I live in a loving world. I am love and for now and forever I return to the state and the vibration of love.” (Again, feel free to edit this for your needs).
10.) Take a few deep breaths allowing this to sink in and then place the flower or a few drops of rose essential oil into the water.
11.) Hold the bowl of water in your hands while reciting “I am Love.” Using your fingertips dab a few drops of the water over your heart center as a way to protect and purify your heart chakra opening.
12.) End the ritual with a thank you prayer to the Universe. To close the ritual, blow out the candle, pour the water into the garden and take the paper straight out of the house into the recycling can.
There is a real calling for all of us to open our heart charkas and bring more love, compassion and understanding into the world. Understand that as you open your heart charka you also help to effect the world and those around you in a positive and loving way.
Love is truly the Universal healer.