The Rise of the Empath and the Narcissist

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Image Artwork by Nela Dunato 

It seems like every other day I am seeing an article on my Facebook feed about narcissists, empaths and romances between narcissists and empaths.

Both empaths and narcissist are buzz words that people seem to be using more and more to describe themselves or people they know.

What it is interesting is that I have observed that narcissist are like the shadow of the empath. Whatever the light touches also casts a shadow, and I feel that both narcissists and empaths are one side of the same coin.

What is a Narcissist? 

Firstly, narcissism is a mental disorder, however today the term is being used more freely to describe people who most likely are living from a place of extreme ego.

No one is born a narcissistic, it is a behaviour pattern that is developed over time. Narcissists are described as being manipulative, lacking empathy, having split personalities, being controlling and having a heightened sense of self importance.

On a deeper level however, perhaps the narcissist is an empath themselves, but just can’t seem to figure out how to handle all of their emotions. This then results in them shutting out their emotions, feeding the ego and turning into a seemingly emotionless person.

Perhaps a narcissist has so much empathy that they don’t know what to do with, so it manifests as them displaying narcissistic tendencies.

What is an Empath?

The term empath is also being used more freely to describe people who are highly intuitive and extremely sensitive to energy.

We are all intuitive and sensitive to energy to some degree, but empaths are here to light the way and to hold the torch for other people to follow. Empaths are here to increase our awareness to energy and that we are all energetic beings.


The same goes for the narcissist, they are simply holding the torch to expose the ego and how it can take over and make the person seem almost inhumane.

Empaths and narcissist have always been around, but as our consciousness continues to evolve, we are becoming more aware of these behaviour patterns.

Why Empaths and Narcissists Attract 

If we look at narcissists who are empaths that simply cannot use their gifts, then it would make sense as to why an empath and a narcissist would be attracted to one another.

Both the empath and the narcissist would recognize themselves in one another. The empath would want to cure and help the narcissist and the narcissist would want to learn and perhaps even suck energy from the empath as a way to cope.

Often we view the narcissist as a spineless villain who is out to take advantage of the empath, but perhaps really deep down on a subconscious level, the narcissist is trying to understand how the empath has been able to use their gifts.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that the empath should tolerate or become a victim of the narcissists behaviour, but perhaps this may explain why an empath would get sucked into this type of relationship.

On a deeper level, the empath can see the narcissists cry for help and guidance. In this type of relationship, the empath is responding to something much deeper and below the surface.

There is no doubt that the empath is the narcissists greatest teacher, it is just up to the narcissist to embrace the lesson. But it is important to understand that it is not the empaths responsibility to change the ways of the narcissist.

For those empaths who have been or currently are in a relationship with someone displaying narcissistic behaviour, it is important to understand that you are not responsible for healing them. Only the narcissist can do that when they realize that they too are an energetic being that has been gripped by the fear of the ego.

Just the same, the narcissist is most likely going to be the empaths greatest teacher as it will help to expand their gifts and expose any self-limiting beliefs that are blocking the empath from living their life to the fullest.

About the author

Tanaaz

Creator of Forever Conscious and other things.

  • nature_queen

    TQ!feels like this article speaks to me. I grew up with a narcissist parent.Took me 3 decades of life to finally let go and stop trying to heal the toxic relationship. Never felt more alive and lighter.

    • awesome! thanks for sharing! i am so glad you have been able to transcend and rise above it! that is incredible and an inspiration 🙂

  • Lily Snape

    Awesome! This article also speaks to me. I am in a marriage now with a more narcissistic man that’s going through a divorce. It took me years to realize that I was an empath, earth angel in the first place and why I was always running low on energy. I’m sure he is an empath on some level. I’ve given him some tips these last few months, but he seems to believe he is happy with himself. But I can see it’s just his ego.

    • thank you for sharing your insights Lily! I am glad the article resonated with you 🙂 Hopefully he can realize his empathic gifts one day 🙂

  • Andrea Cullen

    lovely article with no finger pointing either; its nice to read an article not finger pointing at narcissists; even though i was there i understand that was my path to accept and grow from! I felt the sun however when i moved away from the shadow 🙂 and hopefully he did too. Because what ever side we fall on in this pendulum both can live through pain and both hopefully will expand into growing into themselves, and their gifts with accountability and responsibility. thank you xx

  • Tom Smith

    this article is makes alot of sense to me- im so glad i found your site- thanks!
    having read the article, i think im definitely guilty of spending much of my youth with an over developed ego and sense of self importance, but i truly believe ive swung the other way entirely and find myself extremely empathetic to the point i tend to get the life sucked out of me by people- although i concede this to be a dual process where i hopelessly/recklessly give my energy away. i have a history of being sucked into others emotional pain and fighting battles that arent mine. sometimes im convinced i can feel the physical and mental pain of others close to me. do you think this is a sign of both empathy and narcissism? or perhaps medical? answers wont offend me so feel free to comment. and thanks for such a great site

    • thanks for your kind words Tom! It sounds like through your awakening process you have just become more sensitive to emotions and the world around you. This commonly happens when you start opening yourself and operating from your soul instead of your ego. Perhaps developing some tools of protection may be helpful. Also, you may find this article interesting-
      http://foreverconscious.com/signs-attacked-energy-vampire

  • Kenny

    Only issue I have with this article is it says this supermoon falls on nov 14th with the sign taurus, now heres my issue, i was born on the 15th of nov, taurus is not the correct sign, scorpio is the correct sign, i know this because im a scorpio

    • Andrea

      Scorpio is the SUN sign, the moon was a Taurus moon, which is opposite the Scorpio sun…. sun is opposite the moon