The Journey to True Love

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why we seek companionship

Love, the never boring and ever interesting topic that keeps us all in its hands. No wonder the internet is overflowing with articles about love, courses are blasted out about how to find your soulmate and books are printed on how to attract the perfect match. A tad bombarded, aren’t ya?

For ages, as long as mankind has existed on the planet, love has been both a magical blessing and a major issue. Poems have been written, tears have been shed, and yes… some even murder in its name. It’s this enigma that moves us in our core being, that leaves us shaken and broken at times, and yet we keep going back for more. Like the ultimate drug, there is this dance that we exercise, just to discover that we probably need to detox from it every so often. I mean, unless you actually have won the lottery at one of the “Attract Your Soulmate” workshops.


Not to sound too modern here, but true love really does start with yourself. The folks that seem to be the happiest and finally get to meet their greatest match in life are usually the ones that have done some serious internal diving and truly embodied themselves to be THE ONE. So to be able to have the one in your life, you have to be clear on what you want, what you don’t want, but more than anything you absolutely have to be in the know of BEING love. You see, your soulmate was there all along, right inside of you.

When you meet yourself, in deep acceptance and joyful love, you will find that most of your needs are met and anything else on top that (as in a person in the physical world) is a great bonus on top of your great love life with yourself.

To embody love is not an easy job at first, but then after a while it actually becomes a flowy, and very much real thing inside of you that starts manifesting outward and around you. If you spread shine, the universe has no excuse but to give you shine back. Sure, the road gets bumpy every now and then (it does for all of us, trust me on that one) but overall, life will have a new purpose. You can be a dentist assistant or a guru on a mountain, your worth in love is equal if you become what you seek.

So hey, stop obsessing over that one magical meeting, and start with yourself. I’d love to hear about your journey if you have the guts to share it. It is definitely a deep trail to travel off onto, but so worth it.

Much love to you, from my Heart of Hearts.

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Hengi Hawk

  • I think this article is so profound. So often we seek things from outside of ourselves when really all we have to do is look within first.

  • Hengi

    Thank you Tanaaz, I agree completely. Though sometimes the outside influences us to go deep within, and is merely a reflection of what we truly are anyway, on so many levels. A good balance is probably best to strike 😉 A lifelong journey…

  • Jess

    I hear what you’re saying, and I understand and agree. The tricky part is getting there, finding that love for yourself (or more specifically, myself). I try, and will continue to do so. I feel like I’m missing one key ingredient, but I’m sure in time if I keep trying I will find it.

    • Hengi

      Jess, I hear you. Sometimes it is a challenge to dive into self-love. I believe the tricky part is to not be selfish, when doing so. A balance of healthy self-love, but unselfishness would definitely make the world a better place. But yes, in time…in due time. Until then, let’s just keep trying our best. That is all we can do.

  • Ines

    Good joob hengi!

    Love y article

    • Hengi

      Thank you darlin’!

  • Jaime

    This is so sweet- and beautifully written. Cheesy as it sounds, Whitney Houston had it right (for a minute at least) when she sang “learning to love yourself (it) is the Greatest Love of All.” Awwww flashback to a mob of hugging high school friends at prom. 🙂

    • Hengi

      Jaime, I appreciate your support. Speaking of Whitney, I think her “good and bad” or “up & down” in life definitely represents being human at its core level. We all have moments of self-love, and then suddenly we can sink into some form of codependency (that can be a person, or a job, or project or food…etc.) if we don’t stay conscious of our thoughts and actions. We should just stop complicating things in life 🙂 And just hug it out!