Ending a Soulmate Relationship

ending a soulmate relationship

Ending a soulmate relationship can be both a daunting and a relieving feeling.

Soul mates are sent to awaken us and to expose our shadows so we can evolve to a higher state of consciousness and when that journey starts coming to an end, it can be difficult to let go.

Usually both souls in the relationship start to feel off-sorts and that something is no longer clicking, this is because usually once the revealing and healing work has been done, your souls know on a subconscious level that it is time to move on.

Many will resist this phase and many will call in this phase too early. In fact, it can be tempting to call on the ending too early because often soul mate relationships bring up many personal and emotional challenges.

It is always your choice to stay in the work or to leave, but know that soulmate relationships that end too soon, often see a reconnection down the track, either physically or on a spiritual or emotional level.

Sometimes you may even attract a different person who has an uncanny resemblance or the same soul lessons seem to reappear in other relationships.

The important thing to remember is that when a relationship is truly up, especially a soulmate relationship, there is nothing you can really do to change the course of the Divine. All you can do is surrender and ask to be carried forward with grace and ease.

Ending any type of relationship is difficult, but with a soulmate there is usually another level of spiritual separation that can be challenging to deal with.

If you are struggling to deal with leaving your soul mate, or you are feeling the ending approach, here are some suggestions:

1.) Recharge the Etheric Cords

We are all connected to each other through etheric or energetic cords however, the cords are strongest between those we have a relationship with.

You and your soulmate likely have a very strong energetic cord but when issues arise, it can cloud the energy of the cord and cause communication issues and the inability to see each others points of view.

Spend some time visualising the energetic cord with your soul mate and imagine it being cleared and cleaned with a golden light.

By doing so, you can strengthen your communication and understanding between each other in order to connect with the truth of how you are both feeling.

2.) Activate the Crown and Heart Chakras

Whatever issues are causing you grief can be sent loving and healing energy, especially if you are finding it hard to let go.

To do this, imagine a beautiful pink light coming down into your crown chakra through to your heart chakra. See the light getting stronger and softening any pains or issues that seem to be holding you back from moving forward.

While visualising the light, continue to also ask the Divine to help all situations to be resolved with love and ease.

3.) Ask to See Your Soul Contract

Everyone has a soul contract and your soulmate is most likely a part of that contract. In a meditation, you can ask your Spirit Guides or angels to show you your contract and the lessons that the two of you were destined to fulfil.

You can ask to be shown the higher purpose of your union and you can also request to see the timing of the contract.

Understand that no contract can be made to last longer that destined, however if the two souls are consenting and it is done by free will, you can form a new contract.

4.) Surrender to What Is

It can be difficult when one of you wants to leave and one of you wants to stay, however whatever the situation you have to honor the other person without judgements.

If your partner wants to leave, you must give them the space to do so and surrender to their needs without judgement.

If you are struggling to let go, visualise loving them and surrounding the situation with loving energy. Know and trust in their decision and their ability to choose what feels right to them.

You can also allow the Divine to step in to show you the way and to help you surrender to what is.

Letting go can be powerful and the more you allow that space, the more the healing can begin.

5.) Soulmates Come and Go

You have multiple soulmates, so just because this relationship is ending doesn’t mean you are forever doomed to never be with a soul mate again.

Sometimes we can get so infatuated with the idea of a soulmate that we can forget that sometimes they are not destined to be forever.

Soulmates are sent to challenge us to evolve into a higher state of consciousness and often it can become time to move on to the next state of consciousness when the work is done.

Remember, that there are always other soul mates out there and these soul mates are ready and open to receiving you when the time is right.

6.) Release Negative Emotions

It is almost inevitable that some negative emotions will arise when you are nearing the end of a relationship, especially if you are both feeling differently about the path ahead.

Know that having negative emotions towards each other or the situation is not helpful to anyone and will not help the healing process in anyway.

Call upon your angels or Spirit guides to help you release any fears, doubts, attachments and guilts that usually come with ending a relationship.

Ask to be guided to resolving the relationships end in a harmonious and healing way, and try to stay attuned to high-vibrational thoughts.

7.) Don’t Take it Personally

This may seem hard to do, but no matter the reason for the relationship ending, know that it is not personal- it is no one’s fault, it just is what it is.

Everyone has their own journey and their own process, therefore it is rarely anything to do with you personally that is causing the ending. It is more to do with where you are both at individually on your journey.

Especially when it comes to soulmate relationships, you both are just doing the best you can with what you know. Remembering this can help you bring healing and forgiveness to any pains you are experiencing.

If you are struggling with this energy, ask for clarity and guidance in how to move forward and perhaps even meditate upon how your partner may be feeling so you can come from a place of compassion and understanding.

8.) Follow the Signs

How do you know if you are really over? The Universe will be delivering you signs, and the more you can stay open and aware to them, the stronger they will be heard and felt.

You can ask the Divine to send you some guiding signs to allow you to know when it’s time to move forward. Trust in these signs and trust that you will be guided to know exactly what to do in each moment.

Chances are if you are both awakened, you will both be hearing and feeling the same signs. If this is not the case, don’t despair. Just trust in your own intuition and know that your partner will hear whatever messages they need to when the time is right.

9.) Closing the Door

Once the two of you have both agreed to go your separate ways, take some time to honor your soul connection and all the lessons that you learnt together.

It may not be possible at first to create a friendship, but there is no reason why you cannot reflect on all the good times you had and send gratitude to each others way.

Spend time to honour all that you learnt and surround your soulmate in love and guiding light, pray that they are happy on their new journey and truly hope for the best for them.

Ending a Soulmate relationship can be tricky, and often soulmates will go through multiple break ups before they fully can let go.

Trust and know that everything has a Divine timing, in the mean time following these 9 tools may lead you towards some understanding of how you can end a soulmate relationship consciously.

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About the author


Tanaaz is the creator of Forever Conscious. She is an intuitive astrologer and aims to use her writing to heal and inspire. She is also the author of several books including the Power of Positive Energy, Messages for the Soul, and My Pocket Mantras. She also runs online courses and in-person retreats.