5 Spiritual Tips for Dealing with the Holidays

dealing with the holidays

The holiday season is supposed to be about giving, sharing and being with those you love, but this time of year can also bring up a lot of anxieties.

Money issues, family dynamics, loss of loved ones, and so on, often feel amplified at this time of year and can cause a lot of stress and unease.

We don’t have to love the holiday season; we don’t even have to pretend to love it. But, if you want to find more grace and ease around the holiday season here are 5 tips to guide your way.

1. Make Your Gifts Thoughtful, Not Expensive

Money is one of the biggest stresses over the holiday period due to the high expectation to purchase gifts for all of your family and friends.

While it is always a nice idea to give someone you care about a gift, if it’s causing you stress, remember that it’s all about the intention and not the actual gift itself.

You don’t have to spend a lot of money or buy the latest gadget in order to impress, instead, you need to give a gift that comes from the heart.

One of the best and most inexpensive gifts to give are the ones you make yourself. There are so many great DIY ideas, such as making your own cake mixes, bath scrubs, chocolates, flower/succulent arrangements, food baskets and so on.

DIY gifts are also affordable and easy to make in bulk, making them the perfect choice for both friends and family. Also, DIY gifts are often far more appreciated as they show that you have put in that extra effort.

Another idea would be to talk to your family about gift-giving and see if you can end the traditional altogether, or instead, pool your money together for an experience, rather than a physical gift.

The most important thing is that you stay within your means and don’t allow the pressure of the season to send you into debt!

2. If Are Not a Fan of the Cooking, Eat Before Attending 

Another big stress around the holidays is food. If you are trying to watch what you eat or follow a particular diet, it can be challenging and even uncomfortable to attend gatherings where there is lots of food you can’t eat, and lots of family/friends that keep pressuring you to eat it!

Firstly, it is important to not let other people’s food habits disturb you. For example, if you are vegan and your family all eat meat, or if you are particular about the ingredients that you consume and everything that’s served seems to come with lots of additives, preservatives, and sugar, it is really in your best interest to not let this bother you.

If you know that the food being served is not going to be to your liking, don’t get all stressed about it. Simply eat before you go, or offer to bring a dish to the event that you know you can eat.

If you do receive comments from people about what’s on your plate, keep it casual and don’t get defensive. You can also try to change the topic by coming up with a question that makes them talk about themselves.

The general rule of thumb here is that if you are a guest in someone else’s house, you need to be gracious and thankful, no matter what is being dished up.

3. Learn to Let Things Go

Family can be a huge trigger for all of us, and different family dynamics can definitely be stressful. As the guru Ram Dass says- “If you think you are enlightened, go spend a week with your family.”

If you know that particular family members are a trigger for you, or if you know your Great Aunt has a habit of saying mean and nasty things, it is important to prepare yourself.

When it comes to family, especially older family members, there is not a lot you can do to change their habits or ways, especially if you only ever see them once a year around the holidays.

In this case, the best thing to do is allow their comments to roll off your back like water. Visualize yourself in a white golden light of protection, and use affirmations to help keep you calm and safe.

If you have an issue with a family member or friend that you see on a more consistent basis, there may be more of a reason to address the issue and talk it through, however you may not want to choose to do this during Christmas lunch.

The holidays can be stressful for a lot of people, so try to be compassionate and more forgiving with others around this time of year too.

Another thing that can be powerful to let go of is old family traditions that are emotionally difficult or time-consuming to maintain. While it can be wonderful to honor traditions of the past, if it’s becoming stressful or triggering grief, it may be time to create some new traditions.

4. Focus on What Is Important 

If the holidays are a stress-filled mess for you, make a vow to change this starting today. You deserve to have this time period be enjoyable and fun.

The holiday period is really about coming together and giving thanks for the year gone by. It is a time to celebrate your triumphs and failures and to honor the journey that you have been on. It is also a time to think about others and to support those in need.

The holiday period will mean different things for different people, so think about what is important to you and be sure to honor that message or to make it your mantra during the season.

When you focus on what is important, it also helps you put things in perspective and manage your stress levels better.

Stressing about gifts and trying to please others is no way to spend the holidays, so get rid of whatever is weighing you down and choose to celebrate in a way that makes it enjoyable and fun.

Giving yourself permission to create your own traditions around the holidays rather than following in the footsteps of what has been done is also a powerful way you can claim back the holiday season.

5. Remember to Breathe

The last tip here is to just breathe. Whenever you feel stress or anxiety coming on, or whenever you are starting to feel overwhelmed with everything you need to do, just pause and breathe.

Breathe in for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, exhale for 4 counts and then hold for 4 counts. Repeat this breath cycle for a few minutes for an instant calming and rejuvenating effect.

The holidays are meant to be enjoyable, so this year make it a point to find the fun and allow all the unnecessary stresses to melt away.

Read More:

Spiritual Guide to Dealing with Family Over the Holidays 

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Tanaaz is the creator of Forever Conscious. She is an intuitive astrologer and aims to use her writing to heal and inspire. She is also the author of several books including the Power of Positive Energy, Messages for the Soul, and My Pocket Mantras. She also runs online courses and in-person retreats.